Sometimes you have to make a decision, fix a plan that will greatly impact folks you love. This first August Tuesday I was my indecisive self. With company roaming about and more company to come, I didn't think I had talked my decision out enough with my beloved husband because he had lawn care and other home chores to tackle after yet another business trip.
I'm a whirling dervish dancer as I prep for company. Whirl enough and your thoughts spin in confusion over expectations. I thought was a cool idea to let the kids be with each other, then play a Wii game after dinner. To which MBH protested: "When have we ever played Wii [games] after dinner with guests?"
"The night Buddy's friend slept over," I replied, with a smirk.
MBH wisely moved us to debate behind a closed door. There we compromised to let the kids play Wii if any of them requested. Yours Truly, however, was still confused about dinner seating.
Ever have a critical decision on the table, in this case, on two tables? You see, I couldn't recall whether we wanted two tables set or one table extended for ten people. MBH liked the traditional, extended uni-table gathering. I preferred two separate tables. The pings and bings of Bud's Wii-Play with Gramps muffled rising spousal rhetoric. Finally, MBH declared, " It's decided. Two tables. You win."
No gamer, I didn't like my beloved husband's assessment of the decision; I wanted us happy, on the same page. I was not happy. Though one option had to lose, my analytical engineer carefully reframed the win/lose scenario. He walked me out of the room to set the tables as jointly decided.
As MBH left on an errand, his cool step-mom offered to help me. Her face changed as I spilled out the awful table plan. An hour later, my husband's face changed as he walked by the table arrangements.
Dinner that night was as good as Norman Rockwell tradition gets. Only we passed roast beef not turkey around with animated talk that began with prayer. After desert, the kids moved, banged, and binged on the Uno-Attack game on the second table.
Have to decide between good options?
Talk and pray it through, in private.
Walk it out by faith.
Let Providence's best-laid plans unfold to bless you and all those you love.
No comments:
Post a Comment